Commonly Asked Questions about Addiction and Treatment
What you should do and how to cope if you are living with an addict?
Living with an individual struggling with addiction can be challenging and emotionally taxing. It's essential to find effective strategies to cope with this situation, protect your own well-being, and potentially influence your loved one towards recovery. Here are some strategies:
- Educate Yourself: Understand that addiction is a disease, not a choice or moral failing. Learn about the specifics of the addiction, its effects, and treatment options. This knowledge can help you better empathize with your loved one and give you an idea of what they're facing.
- Set Boundaries: Establish boundaries that protect your mental, emotional, and physical health. This could involve rules around drug use in the house, or not covering for the addict's responsibilities. Be firm in maintaining these boundaries.
- Avoid Enabling: While it can be difficult to watch a loved one suffer, avoid actions that enable their addiction, such as providing money that may be used on drugs or alcohol, or making excuses for their behavior.
- Communicate Openly and Honestly: Express your concerns without blame or judgment. Use "I" statements to express how their behavior affects you and others in the house.
- Encourage and Support Treatment: Encourage them to seek professional help. Show support for their efforts to engage in treatment and maintain recovery.
- Take Care of Yourself: It's crucial to look after your own health too. Make time for activities you enjoy, maintain a healthy lifestyle, and seek support when needed. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so ensure you're well-equipped mentally and physically to cope with the situation.
- Seek Support: Consider joining a support group for families and friends of individuals with addiction, such as Al-Anon or Nar-Anon. These groups can provide a community of people who understand your experiences and can provide advice, support, and a safe space to share your feelings.
- Consider Professional Guidance: If the situation becomes unmanageable or you're unsure how to proceed, seek help from a counselor or therapist familiar with addiction. In extreme cases, a professional intervention may be necessary.
Where can I get help for my addiction to drugs with very little money?
If you're seeking help for your addiction to drugs and have limited financial resources, there are several options available to you. These organizations and services can provide support, counseling, and treatment at little to no cost:
- National Helplines: Our own helpline (1-877-882-9275) or the SAMHSA National Helpline (1-800-662-HELP) provides free, confidential, 24/7 assistance in English and Spanish.
- Local Support Groups: Many communities have support groups, such as Narcotics Anonymous (NA) or SMART Recovery, that offer peer-to-peer support and resources for individuals struggling with addiction. These meetings are typically free and can be found in various locations.
- Non-profit and Faith-based Organizations: Some non-profit and faith-based organizations offer free or low-cost addiction treatment services, such as counseling, group therapy, and recovery programs. Contact local community centers, churches, mosques, or synagogues to inquire about available resources.
- Sliding Scale Treatment Centers: Some addiction treatment centers offer services on a sliding scale, meaning they adjust fees based on your income level. Contact local treatment centers and inquire about their financial assistance options.
- State-Funded Treatment Programs: Many states provide funding for addiction treatment programs that offer free or low-cost services to eligible residents. Contact your state's health department or substance abuse agency to learn more about available programs.
- Medicaid: If you are eligible for Medicaid, it may cover substance abuse treatment services, including detoxification, counseling, and medication-assisted therapy. Check with your state's Medicaid office for more information on covered services and eligibility requirements.
Do addicts lie to themselves?
Yes, it is quite common for individuals struggling with addiction to lie to themselves, a phenomenon often referred to as denial. Denial is a psychological defense mechanism that helps a person avoid confronting painful realities, emotions, or actions that they may not be prepared to handle.
In the context of addiction, an individual might convince themselves that they have their drug or alcohol use under control, that they can stop anytime they want, or that their substance use is not impacting their life negatively. They may downplay the quantity of substance consumed, the frequency of their use, or the resulting consequences. This self-deception can serve to protect them from the guilt, shame, or fear that might arise from acknowledging the full extent of their addiction.
Here are some common forms of self-deception seen in addiction:
- Minimization: Downplaying the severity or consequences of their substance use.
- Rationalization: Creating explanations or excuses to justify their drug or alcohol use.
- Blaming: Attributing their substance use or related problems to external factors or other people.
- Diversion: Changing the topic or focus to avoid discussing their substance use.
Denial and self-deception can make it hard for people struggling with addiction to seek help or fully engage in treatment, as they may not fully acknowledge that they have a problem. This is why interventions, carried out with love, understanding, and professional guidance, can be essential in helping individuals recognize the reality of their addiction and take the necessary steps towards recovery.
However, it's crucial to remember that lying and self-deception are not moral failings but symptoms of the disease of addiction. Professional help and compassionate support from loved ones can help individuals break through their denial and embark on the path to recovery.