Commonly Asked Questions about Addiction and Treatment
How can I tell if I am an enabler?
"Enabling is a behavior often seen in the relationships of individuals struggling with addiction. An enabler, often without realizing it, may protect the individual with addiction from the consequences of their behavior, thus indirectly encouraging continued substance use. If you're unsure whether you might be enabling someone's addiction, consider the following signs:
- Rescuing: If you frequently find yourself covering up or making excuses for the individual's substance use or its consequences - like calling in sick to their job for them, paying their bills, or lying to others to conceal their addiction - this could be enabling.
- Denying: If you downplay the severity of their addiction, dismiss the negative impact it has, or avoid discussing it entirely, you may be enabling.
- Avoiding Conflict: If you consistently avoid confrontations or difficult conversations about their substance use out of fear it may cause tension or lead them to use more, this can be a form of enabling.
- Taking on Their Responsibilities: If you've taken on their duties - like household chores, parenting responsibilities, or work commitments - to compensate for their inability or unwillingness to fulfill them due to their addiction, you could be enabling.
- Providing Financial Support: If you're frequently giving them money, which they could be using to support their addiction, or bailing them out of financial problems caused by their substance use, this is often a clear sign of enabling.
- Ignoring Damaging Behaviors: If you tend to overlook or dismiss destructive or harmful behaviors associated with their addiction, you may be enabling.
How do I stop enabling an addict?
"Helping someone stop enabling an addict can be a challenging process, as the enabler often has deeply ingrained habits and patterns that need to be addressed. Here are some steps to consider:
Recognize Enabling Behavior: First, you need to identify the behaviors that are enabling the addiction. Enabling behaviors can include things like providing money that funds the addiction, covering for the addict's mistakes or responsibilities, or continually forgiving harmful behavior without setting boundaries.
Educate Yourself: Learn about addiction and its dynamics. Understanding that addiction is a disease and not merely a matter of willpower can help change your perspective and reactions.
Set Boundaries: Establish and communicate clear, firm boundaries regarding what you will and won't accept. Stick to these boundaries even if it's difficult.
Stop Rescuing: Refrain from protecting the person from the consequences of their addictive behavior. It is important for them to experience the full impact of their actions.
Encourage Treatment: Instead of protecting the person from their addiction, encourage them to seek professional help. Offer to assist in finding treatment options or attending support groups.
Seek Support: Enabling patterns can be tough to break. Seek help from therapy, counseling, or support groups like Al-Anon. These resources can provide you with tools and strategies to stop enabling.
Practice Self-Care: Ensure you're taking care of your own physical and emotional health. It's easy to get so wrapped up in the addicted person's problems that you neglect your own needs.
Maintain Consistency: It's essential to be consistent with your new approach. If you occasionally slip back into enabling behaviors, the person with the addiction may continue to expect it.
Be Patient: Changing long-standing patterns of behavior takes time, both for you and the person with the addiction. Remember to be patient with yourself and with them.
Remember, You're Not to Blame: Addiction is a complex disease influenced by many factors. It's important to remember that you're not responsible for the other person's addiction or recovery. Your role is to support in healthy ways, not to cure the addiction.
What drugs turn off emotions and make you feel numb?
Several classes of drugs can have the effect of numbing emotions or creating a feeling of emotional detachment. It's important to note that these effects can vary widely between individuals and depend on many factors, including the dosage, the method of use, and the individual's personal physiology and psychology. Here are a few examples:
Depressants: This category of drugs, which includes alcohol, benzodiazepines (like Xanax or Valium), and opioids (like heroin or prescription painkillers), can reduce brain activity and dull emotions. Users often report feeling numb or detached from their emotions.
Dissociatives: Dissociative drugs like ketamine, PCP, and certain kinds of cough medicines containing dextromethorphan (DXM), can induce a state of detachment from reality and one's self, which can include a sense of emotional numbness.
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs): While primarily used as antidepressants, some individuals report feeling emotionally numb or detached when taking SSRIs. This is generally considered a side effect, and if experienced, should be discussed with a healthcare provider.
Antipsychotics: These medications are primarily used to treat conditions like schizophrenia, but they can also induce a state of emotional numbness or flatness in some individuals.
While these substances can make a person feel emotionally numb, it's important to note that this is often a temporary and potentially harmful solution. Long-term use can lead to a range of negative health effects, including physical dependence, addiction, and a worsening of emotional or mental health symptoms. If you're feeling overwhelmed by your emotions, it's crucial to seek help from a mental health professional rather than turning to substances. They can provide support and discuss healthier ways to cope with these feelings.